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You already know how to say aware of your emotions and thoughts. Use that skill to acknowledge hatted, offense or any emotion of that sort the moment it ignites inside you. For instance, if you and your partner just had a fight and you feel hurt about something he/she said to you, recognize the emotions you feel at that point.
At the instant, tell yourself you are not angry, tell yourself that this is just another emotion you are experiencing and you can controls it.
To avoid going into frustration, practice deep breathing and then tell yourself, I am calm, I forgive and person. Inject more belief into this affirmation so you can turn it into a strong and powerful incantation.
In a few minutes, you will start relaxing. The moment that happens, approach that person and tell him or her that you forgive them and want to patch up. If you feel the person may be too upset to talk right now, approach the person when he or she is in a better mood.
Similarly, whenever you make a mistake, do not hold on to that setback. Instead of criticizing yourself, accept your flaw and say, I forgive myself completely, I am going to improve myself. This helps you develop a forgiving attitude towards yourself and move on whenever you experience faltering challenges.
Record your feelings and emotions relating to this habit and every other habit you work on in your journal so you can track your performance.