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Most people do not realize it, but the most vital element of
success in like is the ability to get along well with other
people. You can graduate from a top university and get
years of experience your field. You can become at technical
expert. You might even land a comparatively high paying
job. But unless you have develop your skills with people,
you are not going to achieve very much in life.
The only way to gain a sustainable advantage in your
endeavors for success in by hard work and good, accurate
judgment. We all know what is means to work hard. But
how do you develop good judgment? You develop good
judgment by learning how to work with people.
He is the situation. Everybody is different. People have
different attitude, different viewpoints, deferent
temperaments, different objectives. A lot of times our
difference can lead to conflict when we try to work
together. Conflict can show up in a lot ways, tension, fear,
anger, lack of appreciation, rejection, and insecurity.
The conflicts that come with them are not bad. It is just the
way the world is. Conflict is everywhere. But how you
handle conflict and especially how you handle people in the
midst of conflict, make all the difference in the world. I can
tell you this. When you go to war with people over issues
without relating to them as person, it always costs you lot
more than you gain.
Conflicts are not just between people. We have got
conflicts inside ourselves. We have got needs and desires
that compete with each other. We struggle with our own
dealings about our background, our inadequacies, our fears,
our missed opportunities, our past mistakes. We are proud.
We are selfish. We are generous. We are disappointed. We
are grateful.
Somehow we have got to develop an understanding of what
goes on inside ourselves and other people. We need to
know how and why people get discouraged and just as
import and, how they get motivated and stay motivated to
accomplish great things. We need t know how people,
including ourselves, work.
Just beware of one thing. Do not ever try to develop people
skills so you can get your way with people, Instead,
develop people skills in order to help people and to grow in
your own life. That is when relationship prosper. In fact,
they will be more fulfilling than you ever thought possible.
Whether it is business relationships, family or friendships,
it is the dame process. People skills involve wisdom,
knowing hoe to do and say the right thing at the right time.
As you become skilled in dealing with people, you will
discover that getting along with people does not always
mean giving people what they want.
There are times you will deal with people who will try to
force you into a negative position, and even take advantage
of you if they can. People skills involve not only building
positive, loving relationships, but also being firm when you
need to be firm.
It is absolutely essential that we learn to get along well
other people. More opportunities are amassed on the rocks
of disappointment because relationship fail than for any
other reason. It is not failures in technical skill or
knowledge than most often destroy projects. Most of the
time it is failure to get along with people, coworkers,
supervisors, customers, employees.
That is why companies all over America and the world are
pouring time and money into training their people in
personal development, getting along well with other
people. If this investment pays off for corporations, think
how valuable it could be for each one us individually.
