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People talk about changes they want to make in their lives. But they cannot get themselves to follow thought. They feel frustrated, overwhelmed, even anger with themselves because they know they need to take action, but they cannot get themselves to do it. There is one elementary reason, they keep trying to change their behavior, which is the effect, instead of dealing with the cause behind it.
Understanding and utilizing the forces of pain and pleasure will allow you once and for all to create the lasting changes and improvements desire for yourself and those you care about. Failure to understand this force dooms you to future of living in reaction, like an animal or a machine. Perhaps this sounds like a complete oversimplification, but thin about it. Why do not you do some of the things you know you should do?
For most people, the fear of less is much greater than the desire for gain. Which would drive you more, keeping someone from stealing the 10000 dollars you have earned over the last five years or the potential of warning 100000 in the next five? The fact is that most people would work much harder to hang on to what they have than they would to take the risk necessary to get what they really want from their lives.
This process is certainly not limited to relationships. Maybe you have experienced threshold with your physical condition, you finally got fed up because you could not sneeze into an airline seat, you could not fit into your clothes and walking up a set of stirs winded you. Finally you said, I have had it and made a decision. What motivated that decision? It was the desire to remove pain from your life and establish pleasure once again, the pleasure of pride, the pleasure of comfort, the pleasure of self-esteem, the pleasure of living life the way you have designed it.
Of course, there are many levels of pain and pleasure. For example feeling a sense of humiliation is a rather intense form of emotional pain. Feeling a sense of inconvenience is also pain. Likewise, pleasure weights into this process. Much of our drive in life comes from our anticipating that our actions will lead to a more compelling future that today’s work will be well worth the effort that the rewards of pleasure are near. Yet there are many levels of pleasure as well. While most world agree is intense, many sometimes be outweighed by the pleasure of comfort. It all depend on an individual’ prospective.
